Ethel's Opinion

Is Magic or The Human Being More Difficult To Understand

2010-10-08T12:54:00.000-07:00

I have seen magic at work in human beings in the form of paying attention to all serious thinking by evaluating and interpreting bodily signals as the clues they are intended to be. They may be the forerunner of what may be the more serious symptoms that slowly prevent the body from functioning at its most productive level.

We need to be careful to look in the proper direction instead of being drawn away by a slight of hand movement (assuming a wrong conclusion). Take the time to notice and chart what is really taking place in your body. Nature is usually more honest than magic.

final details re end of N.F.L.players foorball injury

2010-09-14T09:23:00.000-07:00

Headline, article dated, NY TIMES, Concussions tied to Depression in N.F.L. players story, that states "The rate of diagnosed clinical depression among Natl. Football players is strongly correlated with the number of concussions they sustained according to a published study, by University of North Carolina's
Center for the Study of Retired Athletics on a general health survey of 2550 retired N.F.L. players.
It confirms other findings regarding brain trauma and later life depression, but runs counter to long time assertions by the N.F.L. that concussions in football have no long term effect. (N.Y.Times, 6-1-07)
Dr. Ira Casson, Co-Chairman of committee, stated "Survey studies are the weakest type of research study, "... subject to all kind of error and interpretation and miscalculation," although they are using them by taking people's words without verifying them. On the other hand, Dr. John White, Director of the Moss Rehabilitation Institute in Philadelphia disagreed with this criticism. "Do I think this one study proves the point beyond doubt? No.
Does it contribute in a meaningful way? You bet."
This report that 600 players, in a formal, anonymous peer review, before putlication, reported approximately 600 players recalled sustaining three or more concussions on the football field, of which the physician found they had depression.
This formal, anonymous peer review, underwent formal review before publication. (Respondents were on average 54 years old having played almost seven season, and a minimum of two seasons.

WU gets $60 million gift - STLtoday.com

2010-06-04T16:07:00.000-07:00

WU gets $60 million gift - STLtoday.com

This article was written last year, but the project is to be completed this year, so here we are...

What effect will 60 MILLION dollars have on the way young people handle religion and politics? Let's hope it all works out well.

2010-05-23T19:59:00.000-07:00

A New View on Customer Service

2010-05-14T12:49:00.000-07:00

I recently had a new pair of glasses made which I was not happy with. I wore my new glasses almost six weeks before I went back to have them checked. I thought I needed a new pair because they were not only uncomfortable to wear they did not improve my vision.

At the time of my first fitting, the man who was helping me wasn’t really all that much help. You would have thought I was a Meineke Car Care, “In – Up – Out.” I told the man the glasses were not comfortable and they didn’t seem to improve my vision. His response was, “You will get used to them.”

Not wanting to be “a pain,” I went along with his advice. After six weeks my glasses didn’t get better, so I decided to have them checked. It turned out that he had not adjusted them to my eyes and face correctly. The new person who took care of me on this return visit knew immediately that was the case and corrected the problem without having to change the prescription.

This experience happens all too often these days. For some reason people don’t feel they need to do a good job at what they are hired to do, if they don’t make LOTS of money for their time. Thank goodness there are other types of people also – the ones that do their job no matter what.

There is an unfair balance that happens in the work place when this attitude prevails – slackers screw things up and the workers have to fix their problems on top of doing their own work. What is one to do in such situations, criticize the one who made the error or just allow the knowledgeable person to correct it?
My belief is that a “complaint” should be made to the person who made the mistake. This way they can learn from their error. I see two benefits that could come from this, the next patient doesn’t have to go through the same experience, and co-workers don’t have to pull dead weight at work.

Moral of the story – speak up. You may be able to teach and help others while improving your own life.

ideas slip away fast if not recorded

2010-05-13T21:39:00.000-07:00

A new idea comes on momentarily and we assume we can recall it at the appropriate time as needed.

This is a major error our brain imposes on us.
It neglects telling us how fast the idea will get lost in the brain and only a strong reminder might bring it back when we need it.

This is another habit we take for granted without realizing how many wonderful ideas are filed in the brain that we never get back to applying.

How to avoid this functioning or malfunctioning of the brain is just as important as the error the brain imposes on us when it disregards the games the brain plays on us without letting it continue to do so no matter how much important information falls by the wayside without our realizing it.

Can this be avoided? Yes, with a little effort at the time it is happening. How?

Keep a notebook handy and jot the thought down when it occurs. If one thinks this is too much trouble think of the loss of positive thoughts if one avoids this minor effort to make life more pleasant by saving our positive thoughts instead of letting them float away as if they were not important.

MAKE A PERSONAL LIST OF POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND KEEP ADDING TO IT. IT WILL HELP YOU RETAIN THE MANY POSITIVE IDEAS THAT MAKE LIFE INTERESTING, STIMULATING, AND PRODUCTIVE RATHER THAN HAVE THEM CLUTTERING YOUR MIND WITHOUT YOUR EVEN REALIZING THEY ARE THERE.

This may seem a burden but it really is not. It relieves burdens we ignore or do so because they seem to require more time than our superficial view of them makes then appear so.

What's in a habit?

2010-04-23T14:11:00.000-07:00

Habits good and bad are created through repetition. Repetition is kind of boring unless it has value added, like a healthy body, a good relationship or a good handle on your money.

Check out why you do what you do, and either continue doing what you do or start a new boring repetitious behavior with value added.

Where has Common Sense Gone?

2010-04-23T13:47:00.000-07:00

I live in a retirement home where many of the residents use walkers. One day I was watching a lady walk bent over her walker, as if it was trying to pull her under the floor. I suggested that she raise the handles on her walker, but she informed me that her doctor had not told her to do so and on that note, she was only going to do as her doctor instructed her to do!

OK, I can understand following doctor’s orders, but what if her doctor didn’t watch her using that short walker? Think about it – the nurse brings us into the room and we sit waiting for that doctor to arrive. And, the doctor usually leaves the room before us, so when would he have seen this dear little lady use her walker? When do we become responsible for some of our own care?

You would think if people are suggesting improvements we can make to our lives, that we would at least stop to think, “I wonder why they would say that?” Most of the time people make suggestions because they want to see us doing, being or feeling better. Why would I care if her back hurt from bending over too far if it wasn’t for her benefit?

The scary thing in all of this is - we treat our doctors as if they are God – knowing everything we need before we ask for it. Well, the fact is doctors aren’t God or even a good facsimile of God, so why wouldn’t we ask more questions of our doctors if it would make our lives easier?

Do we think so little of ourselves that we don’t dare question those who are the “authority” or have we been programmed not to ask questions, because it wouldn’t be polite? Either way, it’s time to take a little responsibility for our own well-being.

Raise the handles on your walker! Your back will thank you!

Biased Decisions – Costly Business

2010-03-12T12:10:00.000-08:00

If only we knew how costly decisions based on biased beliefs can be, we might stop making them. For example Jews, God and History, published in the mid-1960s, had sold more than 2.5 million copies by the year 2000. It is now considered a classic continuing to sell close to 3,000 copies per month. The reason for the many rejections of Jews, God and History by prominent publishers was, “There are so many books on Jewish history now we see no point in adding another one.” But, after sales of 3 million plus copies, the error of their thinking has shown them how much money they have lost.

One wonders if there has been any change in their rejection policy. Think of how the brave person who took the time to actually read the unpublished manuscript and sent it on for review feels. I for one would feel quite confident in the ability to know good writing when I saw it. It would be interesting to read the minds of who passed on the opportunity to publish yet “another book on Jewish history.”

This wonderful classic can be ordered on-line at http://tinyurl.com/yldbagb or purchased at any major bookstore.

To Treat or Not to Treat

2010-02-26T15:23:00.000-08:00

I endured a traumatic brain injury in a car accident and for 35 years I was unable to cry. Then I heard about cranial manipulation treatment. It was presented to me as a cure for what ailed me. To see what it would do, I tried it. It did make me cry, but for no reason and no cause. Was my choice a good one or not? We all live with the intense desire to make right decisions regarding our health, but when we learn we made the wrong decision, it upsets us and leave us with an unpleasant feeling.

Whether to listen to our bodies or the advice we get from “those who know” is not a simple decision to make. We hear, “Listen to your doctor,” or “Ask your health care provider,” but when should we listen to our daily symptoms instead of asking those who think they know what’s best for us?

Another example of following the advice of health care providers instead of listening to symptoms was when I was being treated for my adrenal gland damage. The physician knew this is the one gland of the body that cannot be repaired or cured since the adrenal gland cannot regenerate itself, but this negative fact was not conveyed when this treatment was applied. I didn’t know what was harder to deal with, my hope of getting better being dashed or having a damaged adrenal gland.

During the years of “mending,” I have learned to listen to my body and choose the best medical decision I can.

Longevity

2010-02-26T14:46:00.000-08:00

At 93, I feel I have lived long enough to have a personal opinion on longevity. I read an article that says your personality may be the key to a very long life. They examined the personality traits of 246 children of people who lived to be at least 100. The study showed that those who live the longest are more outgoing, more active and less neurotic than other people.
(Time/CNN – The Year in Health 2009)

If this is true, they didn’t interview the offspring of the people who live in my building. I was under the opinion that the crabby, nit picking and somewhat neurotic lived the longest, or maybe that’s just how it feels. But then again, I have been active, outgoing and interested in everything around me –so I guess the study is true.

Doctors -vs- Patients

2010-02-26T14:20:00.000-08:00

I had a disagreement against a physician and I wrote to the State Board of Registration for the Healing Arts. My complaint was rejected by them, without ever giving me a reason for doing so.

A routine visit to my doctor was the start to a long drawn out misunderstanding. He prescribe Amox-Clav, and gave me exercises for my round shoulders, which I explained to him I had lived with my round shoulders since I was six years old. I refused to believe that any pharmaceutical could correct this at my age, which at the time I was 80 years of age.

I took the medication as prescribe, only after one dose I experience bleeding, so I stopped taking the drug and called my doctor. He suggested I go to the emergency room because of the bleeding. I was leery about going myself so I called a friend who came immediately to take me to the hospital. I wasn’t hemorrhaging, but having your doctor tell you to go to the emergency room makes you wonder if he knows something you don’t and doesn’t want to scare you by telling you.

I was admitted for observation, and I ended up spending three days in the hospital before this doctor even showed up to see what might be wrong with me. In the end, the medical staff didn’t find any reason for me to be there. On the third day, he arrived too late to issue a discharge order that would have permitted the hospital to discharge me. If I stayed another day, I would have had to pay for it myself as my insurance would not cover it. Because of this I insisted on leaving without his discharge authorization and did.

Now back to my complaint. Not only did I feel neglected by my doctor, but there was no one that seemed to care about my plight. I doubt if this is an only experience of this type. We need a patient listening ear for patients not just for doctors.

The Concussion Puzzle

2010-02-19T15:01:00.000-08:00

ALTERNATIVE METHODS OF CONCUSSION ASSESSMENT
Piecing Together the Concussion Puzzle

By: Kevin M. Guskiewicz, Ph.D.

Condensed suggestions for article to be included in

THE HIDDEN INJURY

By Ethel Dimont

Reports of the cumulative effects of multiple head injuries, as well as multiple head impacts, on long-term cognitive functioning are causing clinicians to rethink their approach to managing concussions. The literature has revealed deficiencies in neurocognitive functions such as attention span, memory, concentration and information processing as a result of cerebral concussions. Alternative testing as well as historical perspective of postural stability and neurocognitive testing are essential.

A variety of assessment tools are available for detecting a mild traumatic brain injury following a concussion or blow to the head. However, their practicality is often questions, especially in sport settings. Assessment of mild traumatic brain injury can be likened to piecing together a very complex puzzle. There are several pieces to this concussion puzzle, and it is the clinician’s job to place as many pieces together as possible before making a diagnosis. Some of these pieces may include, but are not limited to:

1. Assessing cognitive abilities
2. Motor functioning (including balance and reaction time)
3. Symptoms such as headaches, dizziness, blurred vision, memory deficits, etc.
4. History of prior MTBI

Though this chapter is geared primarily to head injuries sustained in sport activities, the same problems and difficulties apply to most head injuries, especially where injuries are invisible.

It is essential for physicians to keep clear records of the patient’s symptoms for future decisions pertaining to severity of injury and possible future need for rehabilitation. Many methods of assessing the severity of head and brain injury have already been developed. Computer Tomography (CT) and Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) have enhanced the capability of diagnosticians to identify certain types of brain injuries and their severity. Two widely accepted methods to assess the severity of brain injury are the Glasgow Coma Scale (GSC) and the Abbreviated Injury Scale (AIS). However, their usefulness is questioned in many instances, especially in managing sport-related head injury. [Because these injuries are often hidden, or considered a closed head injury, which often are not even confirmed by the CT or MRI.]

The (GCS) requires observation of the patient while their eyes are open, verbal performance, and motor response, but several problems limit its applicability in certain cases. For example, having the patient’s eyes open may be impossible with facial swelling, and verbal response may be compromised by endotracheal tube.

The AIS is designed to assess overall bodily injury along with severity of injury to specific body parts. The AIS avoids some of the problems of the GCS administration, but according to Sorenson and Kraus, in the book Physical Management in Neurological Rehabilitation, by Maria Stokes, AIS has some of its own limitation. The scale depends on a valid physician diagnosis, and a clear enumeration of symptoms in the medical record to allow assignment of an injury score.

If we view the body as a computer, sending signals from the brain to tell the body what is required of it, or if there is a problem, it becomes a bit easier to understand some of the complicated systems the human body uses to enable it to function on the level it does.

POSTURAL CONTROL SYSTEM:

The postural control system is responsible for the maintenance of upright posture and balance. This system operates as a feedback control circuit between the brain and the musculoskeletal system.

VESTIBULAR AND VISUAL SYSTEM

The vestibular and visual systems work very closely in attempting to retain upright balance. The vestibular apparatus is the organ responsible for detecting sensations concerned with equilibrium. It mainly contributes to posture by maintaining reflexes associated with keeping the head and neck in a vertical position and allowing the vestibular apparatus to control eye movement.

PROPRIOCEPTIVE SYSTEM:

The proprioceptive system is best described through the tactile senses, and the sense of position, which determines the relative actions and rate of movements of the different part of the body.

A complex network of neural connections and centers are related by peripheral and central feedback mechanisms. A hierarchy integrating the cerebral cortex, cerebellum, basal ganglia, brainstem, and spinal cord is primarily responsible for controlling voluntary movements.

PATHOLOGICAL BALANCE ASSESSMENT:

Disorders of orientation and balance can be very debilitating, especially in an athletic environment. The complexity of the balance system makes localization of the problem difficult, since the abnormality may occur in one or more of the sensory modalities (vision, vestibular, somatosensory) or in the motor system involved in carrying out a particular movement.

Contrary to clinical belief, studies have demonstrated that motor deficits are present in mild head injury patients one year after injury, suggesting that motor skills should be routinely assessed after a concussion.

Symptoms in persons with cerebella damage generally include the following:

1. Cannot perform movements smoothly

2. Walk awkwardly, with the feet well apart. Difficulty in maintaining balancing causes unsteadiness of gait.

3. Cannot start or stop movements quickly or easily. Motions are slow and irregular.

4. Cannot easily combine the movements of several joints into a smooth, coordinated motion. i.e.: To move the arm, they must first move the shoulder, then the elbow, and finally the wrist.

PATHOLOGICAL NEUROCOGNITIVE ASSESSMENT

Neuropsychological techniques have been developed to reliably assess the extent of neurocognitive deficits following cerebral concussion in athletes. Due to the variability of neurocognitive abilities of athletes, acquisition of baseline (pre-injury) measurements for comparison with post-injury measurements is a necessity when instituting a neuropsychological testing program for athletes. This model is not realistic for use in a clinic or hospital setting, but has endless potential when used in the sports medicine where baseline testing is possible for athletes who have a higher risk for injury.

Neuropsychological testing has revealed cognitive declines in as little as 24 hours post injury from the pre-season levels in areas of attention, concentration, and rapid-complex problem solving. These mild deficits were directly correlated with reported symptoms of increased headaches, dizziness, and memory problems. Most test include 5-8 sub tests which assess the various domains of cognitive functioning (re: working memory, mental processing speed, and attention: concentration, procedural reaction time, and visual scanning abilities.)

RECOMMENDED PROTOCOLS FOR ASSESSMENT OF CONCUSSION

This can best be accomplished through the use of a symptom checklist. An on-line check list can be obtained from The Brain Injury Resource Center, http://www.headinjury.com/checktbi.htm. Using the total symptom score and the total number of symptoms reported takes some of the guesswork out of determining an athletes readiness to return to activity. The additional use of objective measures such as postural stability assessment and neuropsychological evaluation can be invaluable to the sport medicine clinician.

These three measure (symptom checklist, postural stability assessment, and neuropsychological evaluation), combined with a thorough clinical examination provide the best resources for making a sound clinical diagnosis and a safe return to participation. The certified athletic trainer and team physician can therefore more easily detect lingering symptoms such as irritability, sadness, concentration deficits, etc.

The athlete should always be referred to a neurosurgeon if post-concussion symptoms worsen within the first few hours post-injury. Neuropsychologists can also play an important role if the symptoms persist during the first several days post-injury. They have advanced training in the administration and interpretation of neuropsychological tests. It is recommended that all sports medicine teams include a neurosurgeon and neuropsychologist, at the very least, for referral purposes.

Understanding that no two head injuries are created equal will help one to realize that this is a complex problem. Some injuries will resolve quickly, and never present any recurrent complications. Others, even those that may appear to be very mild, can result in persistent symptoms that lasts for weeks, months, or even years.

Future research will inevitably develop additional concepts that will aid those with head injuries. Until then, with present knowledge, everyone should be able to agree that no athlete should be permitted to return to competition while still symptomatic, nor should any person suffering from post-concussion syndrome attempt a quick entry back into activities that may predispose them to complicate or interrupt the healing process. Admittedly, though these signs and symptoms are often difficult to assess objectively, erring on the side of caution is the most logical way to deal with piecing together the concussion puzzle.

Max Dimont's books on Kindle

2010-02-12T14:02:00.001-08:00

If you loved Max Dimont's book in paper form - you will love them in e-form too. Here's a link to E-Reads where you can find many of Max's books.
http://www.ereads.com/author.asp?authorid=145

If you like paper books - try this.
http://tinyurl.com/yhlphua

Enjoy!

Washington University in St. Louis to establish religion and politics center | Newsroom | Washington University in St. Louis

2010-02-05T14:05:00.000-08:00

Washington University in St. Louis to establish religion and politics center Newsroom Washington University in St. Louis

Religion and politics have been hot topics for thousands of years. The Greeks had taken the idea of discussion to great heights at Mars Hill, and the world has been influenced by their brilliant minds ever since.

How wonderful to think we may again have brilliant minds tossing around the pros and cons of ideas and philosophies here in St. Louis. As we will know, religion and politics have infuenced one another since the beginning of time.

Treating Depression with Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation

2010-02-05T13:14:00.000-08:00

PRAISE FOR ETHEL'S OPINION

2010-01-23T13:19:00.000-08:00

Head Injuries and War

2010-01-15T15:34:00.000-08:00

Back during the first Golf War, I had written this observation and now...

FINALLY RECOGNIZED AS ACCURATE YEARS LATER

Visible or invisible brain injuries affect different areas of the brain in each individual, yet there is no distinction made even years later when a new correct or incorrect diagnosis is made.

We have specific medical names for different types of digestive, psychological, ethical, political health problems, even cancer. The various names indicate the differences and degrees of each, including even for physically, visible brain injuries.

But, with invisible brain changes, although the titles are different, until recently, all represented the same problem. We have finally begun to recognize acknowledge there are differences between PTSS (POST TRAUMATIC Stress syndrome, and Post Concussion syndrome? Traumatic indicated something happened, but what?
Is there a distinction between TBI and PTSS? (Traumatic Brain Injury and post traumatic stress syndrome?)

Has anyone explained what they specifically refer to or have we accepted them as “psychological causes for invisible symptoms,” fueling the assumptive belief the patient is responsible for the symptom or symptoms, and leaving the patient with the same impression.

Soldiers returning from the First Gulf War were told for years it was their attitude was the cause responsible for their symptoms. This was finally negated by the same federal agency that perpetuated it for more than 20 years. This new approach which had been forced on the federal agency since the latest Iraq War was finally acknowledged by that same agency this interpretation was inaccurate.

The symptoms, almost identical in so many of the returning Iraq War veterans, has finally forced the federal agency to reevaluate that conclusion when it became obvious that it was not logical for more than 22,000 GI’s to have identical reactions to the same symptoms.

HAVE YOU SEEN STARS?

2010-01-15T14:12:00.000-08:00

With cars, sports, wars, a blow to the head has become a major incident, overlooked physical injury for a million and a half people yearly. Society and routine medical care divisions categorize and treat it as temporary. If it is, the patient is lucky. If it is not, it becomes permanent and takes years before this injury may be acknowledged by routine medical care physicians, because there are not adequate test for such an injury to alert the medical staff that there is a problem. Medical staff needs to do it the old fashioned way – by observing.

IF YOU RECEIVE A BLOW TO THE HEAD
1. Do not assume symptoms are not important when the blow to the head was only slight.
2. Minor symptoms are potential clues to a possible serious physical problem.
3. Will probably continue to increase in spite of diagnosis that says “they will go away.”
4. Don’t wait too long to learn about head injuries, doing so often causes compounded problems which will delay the healing process or may cause the injury to become permanent.
5. It is the patient’s responsibility to question any diagnoses that doesn’t feel right – do not “live with it” if it isn’t getting better – head injuries can become permanent if ignored.
6. Head Injury victims are also doing their own research, along with other support groups, research clinic and brain injury activist groups who are searching for explanations and evaluating beliefs, concepts, and potential advances.
7. Answers are complicated, human bodies are all different, their healing processes are not identical, finding the proper approach and treatment for each body is vital and the reason why finding the right answer is so difficult.

Moral of the story - keep asking questions, keep seeking answers, never accept advice that doesn't have your best interest at heart.

Strange World - DECISIONS ON ERRORS OF FACTS

2010-01-15T13:20:00.000-08:00

I have been in the “unknown” (strange world ) for nearly 30 years always believing it was “routine” after an auto accident and the symptoms were not unusual. But I may be one of the very few to search for answers during all those years hoping to be able to return to normal, which I saw as the original me.
Contrary to everyone’s opinion and belief, what I found was so unusual it left me no other possible choice but to accept my situation. All others thought I was making a wrong decision when I decided to try it…a situation that my body was actually telling me it could not be changed. When I did try, small, invisible change began to appear indicating something slightly different and subtle was happening to my body, I decided to stick with it. It was the wisest decision I ever made. My bodily memory lasted long enough to help me remember how long I had not been able to use my muscles, which resulted in their loss of the use of their active ability to function normally, and became stratified. I was not smart enough to know this was the reason why they couldn’t function nor was I aware enough of the importance of finding out why at this point)
Stimulating this and all the bodily functions, in the end took more than two years of stimulation – to help them try to function normally, again.
Or, so it seemed. But it was not so. It had by now been so depleted that whatever energy had not yet been completely exhausted, made it appear as though it was still functioning normally But one day, it exhausted itself It stopped functioning entirely, for more than a year. No one in the health care personnel field seemed to know the reason why. But, did they or had they just gone on assuring themselves their treatments were helping me, knowing full well they weren’t. When I finally called to find out why I was no longer being helped to my utter disgust, I was told by the person who had been giving those treatments for so many years, actually CONFESSED he, and others, had known all along that neither his or any other treatment was capable of curing or relieving it but was only capable of slowly continuing to delay any progress he had told me I was making.
It was just another ‘Health care treatment” that was known could only slow down the deterioration, but never telling me or the public or letting me know that was all it was capable of doing.
Would I, and other patients, be better off knowing the truth and learning to live with it rather than camouflaging the correct information to let us think we were actually being on the road to normalcy? Or was it money which seems to be more important these days than humanities health care?
Just another disillusionment of a health care professional we are told we are getting but are we?
It is almost frightening to think of what we are leaving our children to correct for themselves and their children and the future health care for all of us, including the world. What it will eventually do to our reputation is beyond the stretch or our imaginations.

What about Cancer?

2010-01-15T13:16:00.000-08:00

There has been an assumption medically for many years that there was only one type of cancer. Information about the inaccuracy of this medically assumed information, and which with the new data, it is still in many medical care minds, accepted as fact. This prompts some questions: When will thinking begin that this probably applies to many illnesses?
Although we have been medically assuming that all bodies work the same way and therefore treat them that way, but do they? This approach explains why we have been using the same treatment for similar diseases, without letting ourselves put into practice what logic has begun to tell us…
Human bodies are all similar. How and why they function differently requires paying more importance to the reasons for those differences. Signs of this progress are being forced on the health care professionals by the American public because it is now difficult to HIDE this information from them.
The information age has begun to make major changes—positive and negative--that are becoming more and more difficult to camouflage them from the public. Where it will take us depends on ourselves and what we do with this pertinent information. Only time will tell.

JEWS, GOD AND HISTORY HAD A STRANGE BIRTH

2010-01-14T09:45:00.000-08:00

HOW TO INSTRUCTIONS IN LESS CONVOLUTED FORM

2010-01-13T10:19:00.000-08:00

WE NEED SOMEONE WHO CAN DO THIS FOR US OLDER PEOPLE WHO ARE HAVING TROUBLE FOLLOWING THE DIRECTIONS FOR HOW TO USE THE COMPUTER which would be used by them if it wasn't so difficult to follow what they are being told. Unfortunately, many have already given up. More of us would use it if clarity on how to do so was readily available.

Simplicity would help instead of what we are getting.

Instructions in 1, 2, 3 listed order sentences would cut down the words needed and be easier to follow. Mistakes are not made in blank spaces.

Is this wishful thinking or will someone be convinced to do this?

My thanks in advance for anyone who does. I will be most appreciative because it would make my 90 year old life easier to live.

Ethel Dimont --

DO BIRDS & PEOPLE CONVEY INFO TO EACH OTHER

2010-01-10T13:48:00.000-08:00

There must be an answer to the question this poses --They must.

Anyone at the age of 90, living in a retirement home, has no doubt this is true. If they watch these animal’s actions every day at the same time and at the same place, day after day at 2:50 here in Clayton, MO they would agree they do. Being interested in this normally irrelevant data creates such questions that are normally ignored.

The actions of these living creatures are so identical each day, it is one thinking method I assume to keep my mind active, and conclude they are the same birds and stimulate me in to trying to find answers.

This is a thought that would have never occurred to me if it wasn't so obvious as I sat in the same place every day at the same time. This type of duplication must seem foolish to the average person, but living in a retirement home generates the need for stimulating the mind to retain duplicate actions since they are permanently lodged in my memory as rules to be followed.

This experience would have been lost in my memory if it wasn't so obvious, as I watched them doing the same things over and over, as I too was doing the same things over and over. It’s the way life happens.

SOY---PRO & CON -- WHICH SIDE ARE YOU ON

2010-01-09T15:36:00.000-08:00

AND WHAT DID YOU BASE YOUR CONCLUSION ---- OR ARE YOU STILL IN THE OPINION STAGE???
I can't make up my mind???
I recently read a 12-29-09 article and wonder if it did the same to other readers.

The headline was: Soy-heavy menue at prison spurs lawsuit. Here are some of the excerpts from the article:

1. TENS OF THOUSANDS OF INMATES IN ILLINOIS PRISONS ARE BEING FED #UP TO 100 GRAMS OF SOY PROTEIN A DAY, ACCORDING TO THE WESTON A PRICE FOUNDATON, FUNDERS OF THE LAW SUIT. 25 GRAMS A DAY ARE RECOMMENDED B THE U.S. FOOD AND DRUG ADMINISTRATION.
2. The plaintiffs are "suffering irreparable, actual harm by being forced to eat food that has too much soy in it."

Nancy Chapman,executive director of the Soyfoods Association said she doubts prisoners are concuming as much soy as the foundation alleges.

Who is correct...the Weston Price Foundation or the director of the Soyfoods Assn.?

How is the public to make the correct decision and with whom?

As a 90 year old, I can't help wondering how our children will handle this type of
confusing situation where good health will be the difference between the future generations of our country ... and probably the world, as information -- correct and incorrect -- is so easily obtainable and knowing whom to trust becomes more and more
difficult as less and less important information becomes more and more difficult to know where to get it.

One type does not fit all

2010-01-08T15:56:00.000-08:00

There has been an assumption medically for many years that there is only one type of cancer. Information about the inaccuracy of this medically assumed information, is still, in many medical care minds, still accepted as fact. This prompts some questions: When will we begin thinking that this probably applies to many illnesses?

Although we have been medically assuming that all bodies work the same way and therefore treating them that way -- but do they? This approach explains why we use the same treatment for similar diseases, without letting ourselves put into practice what logic has begun to tell us.

Human bodies are all similar, but how and why they function differently requires paying more importance to the reasons for those differences. Signs of this progress are being forced on the health care professionals by the American public because it is now difficult to hide this information from them.

The information age has begun to make major changes—positive and negative--that are becoming more and more difficult to camouflage from the public. Where it will take us depends on ourselves and what we do with this pertinent information, only time will tell.

What we need is More Rhetoric!

2010-01-08T14:12:00.000-08:00

Not so long ago, we heard complaints about how the level of political discussions had dropped. Since that time we’ve watched the discussion of issues on television, and in issue-oriented books turn into shouting matches. As the presentation of evidence and arguments give way to rhetoric, bombast and plain old name-calling which seem to be the rage these days, common sense has been left for dead. Right-wing politics have dominated the airwaves with hate for anything they deem unworthy, and left-wing Liberals take issue with everything that would stand in the way of them getting their way. As both sides shout at each other, it becomes more difficult to find a serious discussion on important issues. These tactics making it easy to provoke emotional knee-jerk reactions, allowing it to take the place of sound judgment and careful thinking.

Statistics are fascinating

2010-01-08T13:46:00.000-08:00

They tell us what we already know about what is happening but no understanding of the effect they have on the subject. So, for instance, every human being knows they are going to get old but being able to know how to plan to respond is difficult unless you are there.

Why?

Could it be because it is difficult to know what is require in a situation in which one has had no previous experience or believing this is a normal experience and we will respond “normally?”

What is a Brain Injury?

2010-01-08T12:35:00.000-08:00

Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) occurs when the brain has been injured by an external physical force. When a brain injury occurs, usually neurons, nerve tracts are effected. When these parts are damaged the messages the brain sends to rest of the body is drastically altered. There can be any combination of changes in personality, behavior, motor skills and cognitive thinking. These changes can be temporary or permanent and can effect the following: communication, judgement, perception, reading and writing skills, memory and decision making to name a few. Any of the five senses, motor coordination, balance, speech are the physical changes. Emotional mood swings, aggression, frustration are behavioral changes.

Trauma from a blow to the head or stroke can lead to irreversible damage and a greatly reduced quality of life. Sometimes the effects are delayed for months or years.

Did you know that an estimated two million Americans contract some form of brain injury each year? That every 15 seconds someone suffers a brain injury? More pervasive than AIDS, breast cancer and multiple sclerosis combined, traumatic brain injury (TBI) is the leading cause of death and disability to Americans under the age of 45. It effects more lives than most people realize. TBI has become an almost silent epidemic with a brain injury occurring every 15 seconds in America. Approximately, 100,000 people die each year from TBI and 500,000 more are disabled.

More than 2% of the US population is living with a disability caused by TBI. The cost for treating, rehabilitating and caring for TBI victims costs the US approximately $30 billion annually. And to date, no clinical treatment has proven effective in reversing the debilitating consequences of traumatic brain injury.

The only known cure for brain injury today is prevention. The Coalition for Brain Injury Research is working hard to change this situation. Based on recent advances in the neuro sciences, the potential for cure is rapidly gaining credibility in the research community. We are totally committed to working at the federal, state, and grass roots levels to achieve our goals. These efforts will renew hope to the victims and families who have suffered for so long. Every effort should be made to provide them with the opportunity to lead a meaningful, productive life.
To read more about brain injuries, visit:
http://www.brainjurycure.org/1_pages/whatbraininjuryis.htm

BRAIN INJURIES ARE A SERIOUS HANDICAP

2010-01-05T11:03:00.000-08:00

IT ONLY TOOK A MOMENT

2010-01-01T12:49:00.000-08:00

War and fate seem to work in tandem, and for me it happened during World War II. I was a divorcee with a two-year old daughter, trying to keep body and soul together. Circumstances forced me to move back in with my parents and start looking for a job. It was at this time of my life that I got a invitation to go on a blind date with a a GI who was on a two day pass before shipping overseas to Nazi controlled Europe.

All the other guys had dates except Max, so another GI friend told him to call Ethel Kurzfeld to see if she would accept one. My response, a strong rejection of “I don’t go out on blind dates,” stimulated his insistence and succeeded in changing my mind, never realizing how this one decision would change both our lives. If at first you do not succeed, try –try – try again and he did. The next time he called I was not home so he left a message with my mother telling her he would be by at 5:30 to pick me up. I have no idea to this day what made me eventually say yes, instead of throwing him out but I did not and we had a lovely time.

As it turned out the ship he was to take him to Europe sank on its way back to the United States sank and his one-day pass turned into three days and our one day blind date turned into several. When a new ship came to take him to the war, I never expected to hear from him again but I was wrong. Before he even arrived in Europe, I received a letter from him:

Dear Ethel: When I return if we still feel the same way I will ask you to marry me. Love, Max.

He returned eleven months later, asked me that very question, and our wedding was the beginning of a 47-year successful, creative, productive marriage. Max and my daughter Gail responded to him just as I had and their relationship was another kind of love affair.

During our marriage, Max wrote five books, his first one, JEWS, GOD AND HISTORY, became a classic, selling over millions of copies. I helped edit and typed the manuscript at least 20 times which is why it was error proof when it was purchased. The popularity of this book led to invitations to meet heads of state in Europe and the newly formed Jewish country of Israel where we met personally David Ben Gurion, Israel’s first Prime Minister, Martin Buber, the internationally recognized philosopher, and Menahim Begin, who is most noted for signing a peace treaty with Egypt in 1979. Max was invited to lecture at the Weizmann Institute, a high honor.

Along with the four or five trips to Israel, I travelled whenever he was invited to Sweden, Finland, Denmark, Norway, Denmark, Holland, Germany, and the United States. Travelling helped us get the feel for different areas where we found ourselves collecting local art. The walls of our home were not only lined with art work, but kept our memories alive about where we obtained them.

Max died in 1992 from a heart condition. Losing him made it difficult to read the notes he had been accumulating about his life over the years. Finally the day came when I felt strong enough to read his personal comments about himself. Imagine my surprise when I read:

“It only took three dates with Ethel, a NJG (nice Jewish girl) to know she was the one. It must have been destiny because it was about this time I too was becoming subtly aware of my need for a basic change, but unable to know how or what to do to make it happen. One date told me I would marry her if she would have me, never allowing myself the luxury of hoping she too might feel the same way.”

We both needed each other. Had he known I would have said yes if he had asked me before he left for Europe, he would have. It is of no matter. There is no way to paraphrase the rich full life we had together. Forty seven years was not long enough to know the full Max, there was so much to learn about him.
Today, at the age of 92, I have been without Max for 17 years. I am thankful for the memories I have of them because they help soften being alone. Without them life would be less lighthearted.

Who would have known that by accepting a blind date fate would orchestrate such a fruitful and wonderful life.

A Penny for Your Thoughts

2010-01-01T12:29:00.000-08:00

Thank God for old thoughts that won't die...but should they? Society may need them more now than it ever has. They often prevent us from repeating the same past errors - again, and again, and again. If we pay attention to the past - actions and thoughts we are bound to be smarter than before.

Did I Really Have a Brain Injury?

2010-01-01T12:21:00.000-08:00

An undiagnosed brain injury
It never occurred to me that what seemed like a minor automobile accident would change my entire life. Nor did the seriousness of it leave a deep impression on my future caretakers. They insisted for almost three years, that….It was not serious. It’s just temporary. It’ll take patience and a lot of effort to get better.
Without the diagnosis of brain injury, I did not understand my symptoms
I had lots of patience and effort. Those qualities had always worked in the past when I was required to cope with serious challenges. It never occurred to me it would not work now.

But the realization of the error of my thinking came too late to avoid what could or might have been avoided had I received a diagnosis and early treatment for a brain injury. What was required was the correct medical care for my brain injury. I did not realize this hadn’t happened until all the symptoms had become chronic. My effort alone was not enough. The brain injury eventually took control of my life, thus making it more difficult to reverse the negative results.

Life plays tricks on us
With no plans to celebrate my birthday, it started like any other day- a day at the office, home to prepare dinner, attend a French study class for our first trip to Europe and Israel, where my husband was invited to lecture. Not in my wildest dreams could I, a NJG (nice Jewish Girl) from the Bronx, ever have entertained such an idea that on that day my brain would be damaged. But, life plays tricks on us, some good, some not so good.

Treatment of brain injury can be costly – not treating it is even more costly
Like most accidents, it could have been avoided. A speeding car hit us, damaging both cars and me. The insurance company paid for repairing both cars, but would not pay for my serious injury because of the high cost involved. Instead, they interpreted my description of the changes that occurred from the blow to my head and the brain injury as psychologically motivated. This fit me into their lower or non paying insurance category – their interpretation of my story cast me as a malingerer.
To avoid high costs, they instructed my friend, the driver of the car I was in, “not to discuss the subject with me” and he never did. Believing my driver was a friend was my error and I paid a high price for this error in thinking.

Optimism does not heal the brain
The last thing I remember was that we were going to be hit. The first thoughts I remember were, “Where was I, why was I here, flat on my back, cold, naked, wrapped in a white sheet. What could I be but a corpse?”
It took days before I learned the truth. I had been in an automobile accident. I was not aware of the major problems that were coming even after I was capable of asking the right questions. By not getting evaluated correctly, the answers to my questions did not help.

My always optimistic approach to problems, asserted itself as it always had done. Being overly optimistic was a major mistake. It made me assume I was getting correct, thought-out responses to my questions, until I learned otherwise. It was too late to avoid the damage and chronic symptoms that were left undiagnosed too long. After two years of optimistically seeking help from the medical world, and getting nowhere, I decided to seek help from other sources.

The invisible injury to the brain
I started doing research which took me from modern times back to the middle 1850s. I discovered that an invisible injury was considered psychological in nature, instead of physically induced and so it was treated as an emotional problem, thus the diagnosis of “malingerer.”

It’s sad to say, this type of diagnosis still happens today. Fortunately, there are many options and avenues in which to find answers today. If your story is similar to mine, keep seeking, the right answers are out there for you. Be careful not to accept just any answer because it came from a “doctor.” If you aren’t getting better, there may still be something wrong with you and time and effort will not heal. Keep seeking, the right answers are out there.

If you would like to know more about Ethel Dimont, go to http://www.etheldimont.com

memories are complicated mechanism

2009-12-27T15:14:00.000-08:00

It Only Took a Moment

2009-10-30T13:30:00.000-07:00

By Ethel Dimont
Pulished in: Facets of Love, On the Edge Poetry Chapter of Missouri State Poetry Society.

War and fate seem to work in tandem, and for me it happened during WWII. I was a divorcee, with a two-year old daughter, trying to keep body and soul together. My circumstances forced me to move back in with my parents and start looking for a job. It was at this time of my life that I got an invitation to go on a blind date with a GI who was on a two day pass before shipping overseas to Nazi controlled Europe.

All the other guys had a date except Max, so another GI friend told him to call Ethel Kurzfeld to see if she would accompany him. My strong rejection of, “I don’t go out on blind dates!” stimulated his insistence to change my mind, never realizing how this one decision would change both our lives. If at first you don’t succeed, try – try – try again, and he did. The next time he called I was not home, so he left a message with my mother that said he would be by at 5: 30 to pick me up. Here’s where fate must have worked her magic, I have no idea to this day what made me say yes, instead of throwing him out on his ear, but I did and we had a lovely time.

As it turned out the ship coming to take his troop to Europe sank on its way back to the United States, so his two day pass turned into a three day pass, and our one blind date turned into several dates. A new ship came to take the men to war and I never expected to hear from him again, but I was wrong. Before he had even arrived in Europe, I received a letter from him, saying:

Dear Ethel: When I return, if we still feel the same way, I will ask you to marry me.
Love, Max

Eleven months later, he returned, asked for my hand in marriage, and our wedding was the beginning of a 47-year successful, creative, productive marriage. My daughter fell as madly in love with Max as I had, and Max adored Gail as much as she did him. He never permitted anyone to call her his step-daughter. Theirs is another kind of love story.

During our time together Max wrote five books. Jews, God and History, became a classic, selling over 2 million copies to date. I helped edit and type his manuscript almost 20 times so it would be without errors or misstatements. The success of this book opened up invitations to meet with heads of state for the newly formed country of Israel.

We received invitations to meet with David Ben Gurion, Israel’s first Prime Minister, Martin Buber, internationally recognized philosopher, and Menachem Begin, who is most noted for signing a peace treaty with Egypt in 1979. Max was also offered the privilege of lecturing at the Weizmann Institute.

Along with the four or five trips to Israel, Max and I travelled and lectured through Sweden, Finland, Norway, Denmark, Holland, Germany, England and the USA. While traveling, one of the things we enjoyed most was getting the feel for the areas we were in and collect interesting art work along the way. The walls of my home are not only lined with art work, but the memories of obtaining it.

Max died in 1992 from a heart condition. The pain in loosing Max kept me from reading the notes he had been accumulating over the years. Finally the day came when I felt strong enough to read his personal comments and notes.

Imagine my surprise when I read:
“It only took three dates with Ethel, a NJG (nice Jewish girl) to know she was the one. It must have been destiny because it was about this time I too was becoming subtly aware of my need for a basic change, unable to know how or what to do to make it happen. One date told me I would marry her if she would have me, never allowing myself the luxury of thinking that she too might feel the same way.”

I had no idea he needed me as much as I thought I needed him. Had he known I would have said yes to his marriage proposal before he left for Europe, had he asked me, I wonder if he would have. I guess it is of no matter, as he was a man of his word, proposing marriage when he came home from the war. There is no way to paraphrase the rich full life we had together without missing some of the passion, hot and cold that we experienced. Forty seven years of marriage was not long enough, there was so much more to learn about Max.

Today, at the age of 92, I have been without Max for 17 years. I am thankful for the memories I have of our lives together, because they help soften the feelings of being alone. Without them, life would be less light-hearted. Who would have known that by accepting one blind date, fate would help orchestrate such a wonderful life.

CONFINES OF THE MIND

2009-10-30T13:25:00.000-07:00

I would have loved to know the fifteen year old who wrote the following. My feeling is that I probably would be able to carry on a more intelligent conversation with this youth than I now can carry on with the older people I now know.

This 15 year old wrote:

CONFINES OF THE MIND
I feel you walking on my earth
Going down my streets
I find you in the chambers
I see you in my dreams
I see you walking further down
And it makes my heart leap
You sent your army to conquer my heart,
And It’s there that I find
You’re the one that I see and feel
Walking the confines of my mind.

Mapping Memory

2009-10-23T14:10:00.000-07:00

Here's a wonderful video "Memory - Mapping Memory 3D Interactive - National Geographic Magazine" about how the brain maps our memories.

http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2007/11/memory/brain-interactive

Try your hand at their memory game.

http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/games/memory-game

TBI and sleeplessness

2009-10-09T13:13:00.000-07:00

One of the symptoms of a Traumatic Brain Injury is sleeplessness. A study on sleeping aids is the topic of the New York Times article, Sleep Drugs Found Only Mildly Effective, but Wildly Popular, by Stephanie Saul, shows how these drugs are barely better than placebos.

http://tinyurl.com/yhdpt6l

If you have trouble sleeping after a TBI, these articles may offer some help and hope.

http://www.tbihelp.org/sleep_disturbances_following_tra.htm

http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/articlerender.fcgi?artid=2335398

http://ezinearticles.com/?Sleep-Disorders-From-Traumatic-Brain-Injury&id=1404406

If the Milk Smells - Don't Drink It

2009-10-09T11:39:00.000-07:00

If the Milk Smells – Don’t Drink It

You would think anyone with half a brain could figure that out only many people lack enough self confidence, deep in their being, to follow what they know to be true. Here are some words of wisdom from some famous people. Enjoy!

"Common sense is the knack of seeing things as they are, and doing things as they ought to be done.”
C. E. Stowe

"A handful of common sense is worth a bushel of learning”
Proverb

“In any war, the first casualty is common sense, and the second is free and open discussion”
James Reston

“Seek advice but use your own common sense”
Yiddish Proverb

"Science is organized common sense where many a beautiful theory was killed by an ugly fact.”
Thomas Henry Huxley

“Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom.”
Samuel Taylor Coleridge

“Do not be bullied out of your common sense by the specialist; two to one, he is a pedant”
Oliver Wendell Holmes

One, Two, Three, Four Stricks and You're Out

2009-10-02T13:24:00.000-07:00

I had four doctors trying to fix my problem, which ended up being a case of, “Too many blind cooks in the kitchen.”
The first three doctors read from the same script or recipe, “I can’t find anything physically wrong with you. It must be a psychologically induced problem. You will need to get over it and move on with your life.”
One doctor implied he knew the missing ingredient was physical in origin – a brain injury. Only this information came three years too late, the damage had become permanent. The uphill battle for recovery was no less heroic in nature than climbing Mount Everest. Climbing a mountain or walking the path of recovery, both are a choice that will require everything you can give it.
It was a relief to find out that my chronic symptoms were not a figment of my imagination, but were a by-product of a real injury. This was my first step on my path to finding what would be my new “normal.” Because of the delay in addressing these problems, they became permanent, chronic and impossible to reverse. Today, more than thirty years later, they still are a constant reminder preventing me from not thinking about them – my new normal.

Interconnected Joy

2009-09-18T14:13:00.000-07:00

Reality for the human being is made up of endless strands of thoughts, emotions, and general feelings, bound together, strengthening the individual.

These interconnected strands are dependent on each other and cannot be separated. Keeping them balanced is an art, albeit subconscious. Those who can accomplish this subtle act are fortunate and are the healthy, normal, individuals.

Being unable to do so is a serious problem and often leads to depression, which more realistically described is the lack of feelings of joy rather than just being sad.

Adrenal Glands and Stress

2009-09-11T15:46:00.000-07:00

There are four major categories of stress:
1. Physical stress—such as overwork, lack of sleep, athletic over-training, etc.
2. Chemical stress—from environmental pollutants, diets high in refined carbohydrates, allergies to foods and additives, endocrine gland imbalances (due to the interaction of all of the endocrine glands).
3. Thermal stress—over-heating or over-chilling of the body
4. Emotional and mental stress - relationships issues, trauma, abuse and over stimulated.

To read a great aticle on how stress effects the adrenal glands click on the link. http://tuberose.com/Adrenal_Glands.html

Differentiating between intent and human error

2009-07-31T19:01:00.000-07:00

As a 92 year old, I seem to have been unable to keep up with the numerous

changes, person views, differentiating between intent and human error in the professions - medical, legal, research areas.

When a question is asked, it is usually not answered by the individual to whom it is addressed but in some abstract manner by someone who appears to quoting the person responsible for the answer.

In the previous fifty or sixty years ago, this was not so because we were just beginning to be able to use the internet and the answer had to come from the person being questioned.

What a change this has made. We are now unable to know how true the

response is because no responsible person is answering the question.

In questions about weather, travel, and other general questions, this is

not a problem. But when the response effects your future, your life, your health, it is of major importance. Unless you are a 'VERIFIER' of important details to be sure they will be correct. being certain it is correct is essen

Doctor's Misunderstanding

2008-10-24T13:10:00.000-07:00

I had a disagreement against a physician which I wrote about to the State Board of Registration for the Healing Arts. It was rejected by them, without ever giving me a reason why.

I had to visit this doctor, because I belonged to the insurance group, Advantra, and he was my primary physician. This visit was a just a routine visit. The doctor’s diagnosis was a suggestion to take a pharmaceutical (Amox-Clav) and exercise for ‘ROUND SHOULDERS.” I don’t think he was listening very well, because when I told him over and over again, I have had round shoulders ever since I was six years old and I did not think
any pharmaceutical could change that at my age, which at the time, was over 80. I’m sure an antibiotic will not fix round shoulders, but I did have some of the bad side effects from one dose of the drug, which was bleeding.

I returned to the doctor’s office, only to be told by the receptionist that I needed to go to the emergency room. But instead, I waited four hours in his office before he would see me. After finally getting to see the doctor, and having a quick conversation, he told me that I needed to go to the hospital. It was I who had to ask if I still needed to take the Amox-Clav or not. You would think he would have told me that himself.

I didn’t feel I could or should go to the emergency room by myself, so this trip required calling a friend to accompany me to the hospital. After a grueling day, I ended up with a three day hospital stay, where they didn’t find anything wrong with me. This doctor didn’t come to check on my condition until the end of the third day, too late to discharge me that day, but staying any longer would not be cover by my insurance company. I left the hospital without his discharge authorization.

I’m sure I’m not alone with this type of medical experience, but there should be a listening ear to hear for the patient’s benefit, not just for the doctors.

Dear Abby - You must be kidding!

2008-10-17T18:49:00.000-07:00

I had to reread a headline and the story to make sure I was reading it correctly.

Dear Abbly wrote, in response to a question from the woman of an unmarried couple, who asked,

After living together for two years, and splitting all bills – rent, utilities, etc. --
in half, I asked about paying half of my birth control bills (about $40 a month),
most guys and women don’t agree with me.

Dear Abby’s response shocked me.

This is her statement:
There are two kinds of expenses when people share a dwelling, joint expenses and those
that are personal. Prescription drugs usually fall into the latter. Unless you are prepared to
pay half of the cost of his prescription drugs – including Viagra – my advice is to back down
on this.

Dear Abby:

YOU COULDN’T HAVE GIVEN THIS MUCH THOUGHT:

She didn’t ask you about Viagra. Evidently this is not one of their
problems or it would have been included in the question.

We don’t know if they share that expense,but the question is an indication
of the incredibly unbilievable problems that come up between people
today.

Your statement that birth control pills are personal is unbelievable.
PERSONAL MEANS ONE PERSON, NOT TWO.

How could birth control pills apply to one person only, unless you
have a new kind of sex that only requires one person....then we don’t\
have to worry about BIRTH CONTROL.